I kneel on the floor naked and waiting for my Dominant to arrive. Wanting to run, yet longing for the sweet bliss of surrender. “What am I doing? This is crazy. I should leave. This is not normal.” My subconscious protests, hoping I will put on my clothes and leave while I still can. I …
The Power of the Cuffs and Collar – Author Dana Pharant Read More »
Are you allowed to feel and seek pleasure? I was sitting in the living room with my bestie and roommate Gaia as she told me about her latest podcast interview for her podcast My Orgasmic Life. She interviewed a fellow sex therapist, each of them sharing their journey to finding pleasure and making space for …
Are You Window Shopping Your Pleasure? – by Author Dana Pharant Read More »
It happened again. I should be used to this by now, especially as a professional dominatrix. They have fantasized for years about being dominated, or spanked, or pegged or some other sexy kinky play. They gather up their courage and book a call with me. They show up for the call, and because they meet …
Why We Won’t Allow Ourselves to Explore Our Kinky Desires by Author Dana Pharant Read More »
Eeek! What have I done? That pesky voice was creeping in the morning after. Telling me all that sexy fun I had the night before is going to land me in hot water. That voice, aka the lying sack of shit that lives rent free in my head, has caused me to run away from …
Great Sex and Then Ghosted? The Weird Reason Why by Author Dana Pharant Read More »
Her fingers slid between my toes to gently hold one toe at a time as she painted them. A momentary flashback to having a submissive lovingly and seductively massaging my feet and sliding his tongue between my toes. The memory of the warmth of his tongue and the warmth of her hands caused my body …
Permission to Feel Pleasure by Author Dana Pharant Read More »
“Look ma! No hands!” As I settle in to enjoy my new location surrounded by the wilds of the Jungle in Belize, I am also settling in to deepen my connection with the primal sexual creation energy pulsing through every living thing. Pulling that sexual energy up through my pussy, up my spine letting it …
The Energetic Orgasm – See What You Have Been Missing – by Author Dana Pharant Read More »
I am not a prude. Hell, I am far from that these days, but an alarming trend is happening that causes me to fear for the psychological safety of a particular subset of those who are drawn to kink. Sidenote: As with all things kinky, sometimes it is good fun, and sometimes it falls into …
Humiliation: Hot or Not? – by Author Dana Pharant Read More »
There is a good chance you are being coerced into participating in a prevalent non-consensual kink that is happening out in there in the DM’s of every social media. Almost daily, I see people who are playing into this non-consensual kink and are utterly unaware of how they are getting someone off. For this to …
Sitting on my couch, waiting for my client to arrive. I was dressed in a very unusual outfit for me that day. You see, my client had requested something different, and because it was something that I found intriguing and titillating, I said yes. The doorbell rang, and I get up and looked out the …
Sex Worker Puts a Kinky Spin on a 50’s Housewife Fantasy – Author Mistress Dana Pharant Read More »
The application has four simple questions, yet I am continually amazed at how much it can tell me about the applicant. But above all else, it tells me the most important thing that I need to know before accepting you into my dungeon and placing you under my expert care. The one thing that makes …
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